The past couple of weeks have been filled with anxiety and stress, which has led me to be more fixated on my weight.
Although I have been stressed about having to put on a little more weight to be healthy, I haven’t given into the urges to fall back into my old habits.
People deal with stress differently; some people drink, eat, smoke, panic, yell, shop or focus their attention on their weight.
Now that I am aware of these triggers I can check back into reality and recognise that what I have been stressed about has nothing to do with my body image and focusing on something else doesn’t necessarily make the original stressful situation go away.
Like me, so many people fall into unhealthy habits to deal with stress without recognising why they feel the urge. We need to be mindful of the urges we feel when the triggers go off.
This is not a time to judge yourself or others over how stress is dealt with. The way you deal with stress may be completely different from anyone in your family or circle of friends. You may not understand why others cope with stress the way they do, or why they give into stress generated urges, but we all have to be mindful that there is always an underlying problem that needs to be addressed. Giving support and advising healthier options on how to handle stress will make a big impact to your loved one’s well-being.
When you feel stress related urges ask two honest questions of yourself:
What is the real reason why I am feeling this urge?
Does it serve me?
Most of the time stress generated urges don’t serve us at all. They defer the original stress to a bad habit, which leads you to feel guilt.
Healthy options for dealing with stress are:
Going for a stroll
Reading an enjoyable book
Listening to calming / positive music
Having a warm bath
Sitting out in the sun
Playing with your pet
Calling a positive friend
I find it difficult to jump into meditation because I haven’t had enough practice, so I find the best way to deal with stress is by sitting out in the sun, closing my eyes while focusing on my breathing. The sun increases your serotonin level, which is a mood lifting chemical and by focusing on your breathing it will help bring down your heart rate to fight away the stress.
When I find my breath is calm and even, I start to check in with myself, ask questions and reason with myself over why I am stressed.
Nothing external can make us stressed unless we allow it. The feeling of being stressed is caused internally; it is our choice to create it.