For a while now I have noticed that keeping busy seems like a competition.
I am constantly hearing people saying how busy they are with work, their kids, social events, study, and correspondence. The list goes on.
Everyone seems to be trying to be superwoman or superman and if you had any time to think what you want to do for the day, your life would sound boring to others or you would feel a hint of guilt by having time to yourself.
Recently an ex (randomly) messaged me asking what I am up to. Although I have well and truly moved on from our relationship , I didn’t want to tell him that it was 11am on Saturday morning and I was still in my flannelette PJ’s. I was reading a book with the intention of doing nothing other than possibly getting dressed by 2pm. The chances of that happening before 2pm were pretty slim.
I replied by saying that I was just rushing to the gym. And after that I had work to do before catching up with a friend.
I felt guilty by sending that text so I thought I’d better live up to my word. Okay, so I didn’t exactly rush to the gym. It was more like going 4 km per hour and my work was replying to emails and keeping up to date with unread blog posts. Catching up with friends meant spending quality time with my dog while drinking hot cacao.
In my defense, it was not my fault by sending a text that wasn’t exactly spot on. I’m a busy woman after all.
He replied but saying a similar thing, but sounding a little busier than I was. He probably had a friend that could talk back to him. He also didn’t need a gym membership with all the running around from one task to another on his calendar. Then again he could have been just lying about being busy (Jerk).
That night, I was pretty satisfied with the day I had, though I would have also been just as satisfied by having a day to finally relax and read in my sexy flanno’s.
Since I have started my wellness journey I still haven’t had a full day where I can stay in my PJ’s and just have some down time.
I have forgotten how to do one thing at a time. I can’t remember the last time I watched TV without doing something else. I can’t sit down and watch a movie without having my Ipad to research a topic or talk on the phone without cleaning my room, writing an email or painting my nails.
Since when did we forget how to relax?
Since when have we become masters of multi-multitasking?
And since when did running around doing 30 things in one day become inspirational?
I remember feeling annoyed many times over some men not being able to do two things at once.
How can they not listen whilst writing a report or sending a text?
How can they not cook a vegetable lasagna while watching the Olympics and talk at the same time?
Even though it will never made sense to me as to why some men can’t seem to get the hang of multitasking, it makes a perfect sense as to why some men don’t multitask.
By having too many things going on at once, creates an overwhelming mess in our heads.
We aren’t focussing and enjoying each moment in our precious lives.
We aren’t giving our loved ones our undivided attention that they deserve.
We aren’t living a life that serves us and makes us the best we can be. Instead we become overwhelmed with commitments that leave us stressed, angry and leaves our bodies toxic.
From being in the beauty industry, I can’t tell you how many times I have heard women feel guilty by having a facial or even having someone wax their brows.
They explain everything that they should be doing instead of being at the salon. By the time are out the door, they haven’t had a chance to relax and enjoy their well deserved break because they feel guilty to be there in the first place!
Is this how we want to live our lives? Is this how we want the next generation of children to live their lives?
I know I want to have a clear mind to do a job correctly.
I want to have a healthy mind, free of guilt and chaos.
I want to enjoy every moment I have with my loved ones, and I also want to treat my body and mind with respect through nourishing it with healthy foods and having down time to relax and revive.
I am now going to be mindful of what I am doing. I will focus and enjoy doing one thing at a time and allow myself to read in my PJ’s at 11am without feeling guilty.
I encourage you to do the same this week.
Start by prioritizing at least 30 minutes into your week to have some down time. Sit and talk on the phone without being on the computer and even having one internet tab on at a time.
This is one commitment that will serve and benefit your mind, body and life.
Do you currently allocate time to relax each week or better yet each day?
Be kind to yourselves,