I’m one of those people who is a little too open and honest about personal topics. The topics that other’s would consider awkward.
So people who know me weren’t surprised when my news of getting my period (after being absent for 2 years) nearly went viral.
Now I completely understand that it’s not glamorous to talk about your menstrual cycle, I get it. But what is glamorous, is being healthy.
Getting my periods was my indicator that I was at my ideal weight .My body was absorbing all the nutrients it needed to function properly and recover from the neglect and abuse I once put it through.
I don’t agree with an exact goal weight that comes from using the BMI. Everybody is different and functions better at their own individual weight.
One of the many arguments with my doctor over the years was about getting me to my “goal” weight. Go figure! (no pun intended).
My doctor was all for the pill. In fact, every doctor I spoke with recommended the pill.
This was because when a woman doesn’t ovulate and her hormones are out of balance, calcium and other nutrients aren’t properly absorbed by the body. This then can lead to fragile, brittle bones and one day osteoporosis.
So by going on the pill and reaching a certain weight that is based on the BMI is exactly what I was being forced to do.
I didn’t want anything to do with the pill. I didn’t want a synthetic period that hides the real issue as to why I’m not getting my own period. I was also aware that the pill takes away many other nutrients from your body and don’t even get me started on how it affects my mood.
Using the BMI as a reference often got me fixated on a certain number based on others when I should be learning to listen to my own body.
I’m glad I stood my ground and stood up for my beliefs on this one.
I have learned to trust my body and not to compare it to others. I won’t lie and say it was easy because it was painfully hard, and some days it still is but knowing that the hard work has paid off, I know now that it was worth it.
Something common among people who suffer from eating disorders is their interest in health and nutrition.
Friends and family often don’t understand this because it is completely contradicting.
Many suffers of anorexia are very knowledgeable about nutrition. Many pursue it as a career, but in the peak of their illness, the meaning of health is disordered.
Its common that suffers often started their diet with the intension to get healthier which then turned into an eating disorder.
When the results from a new diet become visible and your health and energy levels are improving it’s easy to get carried away and take it further.
Not everyone requires the same nutritional needs. This is also why I am against common weight loss diets and programs because everybody is different and requires specialised programs to suit their own unique needs.
For example, the diet and exercise program that once helped me shed a little weight, gave me more energy and helped my overall health and wellbeing became toxic when I stuck with the diet for a long period of time.
When your body weight drops below a healthy level, the fat around your brain also drops so the way you think is altered.
When all fats, including the healthy fats are completely removed from your body, you are more prone to depression. Your body won’t receive all the nutrients that it needs. Energy levels drop and before you know it your overall health is spiralling down and soon it becomes out of control.
So even when people, like myself ate extremely healthy foods during anorexia and through recovery it doesn’t mean that your “healthy” diet is healthy for you or the person next to you.
This is the one thing that took me a long time to deal with.
Through recovery I ate an amazing diet.
Friends and colleges were amazed by how many nuts, avocado’s, seeds and oils I ate every single day and said if they ate that much they would balloon.
Why anyone would say that to someone with an eating disorder is beyond me but as much as that pained me to hear those comments, my body needed those nutrients to help my brain and my body recover.
With all of those amazing healthy fats and wholesome nutrition, I put on weight but it happened extremely slowly. I didn’t balloon at all. (Though some days I felt like I did, which was all in my disordered thinking).
So now that I have reached my goal weight and on the way to being glamorously healthy, what now?
As always, I love reading your comments!
Be kind to yourself,